Supporting Dementia Carers
Caring for a loved one with dementia is an act of love, patience, and resilience. But it can also at times be physically exhausting, emotionally draining, and at times, incredibly isolating. At Memory Matters, we know that carers are often the unsung heroes, and we want to remind you of something important: you matter too.
Looking after yourself isn’t selfish. It’s essential. When you take time to care for your own health and well-being, you’re better equipped to support your loved one. In this blog, we will share practical tips and guidance to help you stay strong while caring for someone with dementia.
1. Acknowledge Your Feelings (All of Them)
Guilt, sadness, anger, stress — these feelings are normal. Being a carer can stir up a range of emotions, and it’s okay to feel them.
You are not alone. Talking to someone, whether it’s a friend, counsellor or support group, can make a huge difference. Don’t bottle it up.
Memory Matters runs supportive Memory Cafes and advice and free support drop-in services available to anyone affected by dementia, a safe place where you can meet informally to talk, share and simply be heard.
2. Take Breaks (and Mean It)
You need rest, just like anyone else. Whether it’s five minutes with a cuppa or a weekend of respite care, regular breaks are essential, not optional.
Schedule short daily breaks, even if it’s just a walk around the block
Accept offers of help, and ask for it when you need to
Explore respite care services for longer rest periods
3. Keep Up with Your Own Health
It’s easy to let your own health slip under the radar when you’re always putting someone else first.
Keep up with GP appointments
Eat regular, balanced meals
Try to fit in gentle exercise – walking, stretching, dancing in the kitchen, it all counts
Get enough sleep (or rest where you can)
Tip: Use reminders, planners, or wellbeing apps to help keep track of your needs too.
4. Stay Connected
Caring can be isolating, especially if your social life has changed. But staying connected can reduce stress and lift your mood.
Reach out to family and friends regularly, even just for a chat
Join a carer support group (in person or online)
Take part in local activities when you can – even an hour a week can make a difference out
Whatever it is, the way you tell your story online can make all the difference.
5. Learn and Prepare
Understanding dementia can reduce frustration and help you feel more confident.
Attend dementia awareness workshops
Ask questions at appointments
Learn strategies to manage challenging behaviours or communication changes
6. Set Boundaries and Say No
You cannot do everything, all the time. Saying no doesn’t make you a bad carer — it makes you a realistic one.
Prioritise tasks and let go of what’s not essential
Be honest about what you can and can’t manage
Ask for help from professionals, family or friends
Remember: asking for help is a sign of strength, not weakness.
7. Celebrate Small Wins
Some days will feel harder than others. Celebrate the small victories: a shared laugh, a calm afternoon, a kind word. Those moments matter.
Take pride in what you’re doing. You are making a difference every single day.
You’re Not Just a Carer – You’re You
You’re not “just” a carer — you’re still a partner, a parent, a friend, a neighbour, and a person with your own needs and dreams. You deserve kindness, rest, and support.
At Memory Matters, we see you. And we’re here to walk beside you.
Need Support? We’re Here for You - Whether it’s a listening ear or practical advice, our FREE Dementia Advisor service is available to anyone living locally affected by dementia.
Either pop in to our support hub above the Moments Cafe, 69a New George Street, Plymouth or give us a ring on (01752) 243333